"Radical honesty" after an affair sounds like the obvious path back. Tell each other everything, hold nothing back, and trust rebuilds itself. I watch couples do exactly that, and I watch it make things worse. In affair recovery, honesty and dumping get confused constantly, and the difference often decides whether a couple heals or stays stuck.

You had a great date, felt the pull, and went in for the safe hug instead. Here's what most thoughtful men get wrong: the fear of being creepy is the exact thing killing the connection. Creepy and misattuned are different, and the difference is everything.

You're standing in the kitchen, staring at dirty dishes in the sink. Again. They've been home all day, and somehow those dishes are still your problem.

Later, they slide close to you in bed with that look (you know the one) hoping tonight will be different. But all you can think about is those dishes.