Neurodivergent
Sex Therapy
The work isn't about fixing you.
It's about building a sex life that works with your nervous system.
If you or your partner are neurodivergent (Autistic, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, etc.) you weren’t taught what pleasure means for your nervous system.
You might be prone to overstimulation or boredom which can make staying present a challenge. Maybe sex feels like another performance to get through. Maybe RSD shuts you down before intimacy can even begin.
Maybe you've masked for so long that "what do you actually want?" feels like a trick question. You might not even know what that means or where to begin.
If any of this resonates, you’re in the right place.
Staying present during sex
can be challenging.
Your sensory needs how your body
uniquely experiences pleasure.
What to expect in sessions
You get to show up as yourself. Fidget, info-dump, avoid eye contact if that feels better, talk about your special interests, share in whatever way makes sense for your brain. Masking takes energy - energy you need for the actual therapy work.
Embodied Practices
build interoception to identify what you want vs. what you think you should want
Parts Work
notice what protective strategies are blocking access to desire and why
Sensory Mapping
identifying what feels bad/good inside and outside the bedroom
Nervous System Regulation
feel difference between uncomfortable & unsafe
Values Alignment
bridge the gap between your sexual values and your actions
Relationship Work
stay grounded within yourself and connected to each other
Frequently Asked Questions
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Neurodivergent sex therapy addresses how ADHD, autism, and other neurotypes affect sexuality, intimacy, and relationships. Rather than applying neurotypical expectations, it works with your nervous system's unique needs—including sensory processing, attention, and communication differences.
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ADHD can show up in your sex life through difficulty staying present during intimacy, rejection sensitivity affecting desire, needing novelty or routine (sometimes both), sensory seeking or avoidance, and challenges with initiation or follow-through.
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Yes. Autism-affirming sex therapy addresses sensory processing during intimacy, different communication styles around consent and desire, and building sexual connection that honors how you experience the world, without trying to make you more "neurotypical."
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I work with couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent.
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Of course. I help you understand how and when self-doubt and control impact your connection to sexuality. I am not able to treat OCD though, so make sure you’ve already gone to therapy to work on your obsessions and compulsions first.
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That’s normal. You’re different people, of course it’ll be different. I’ll ask specific questions to get a sense of exactly how it shows up for both of you before making any assumptions.
Your brain works differently.
Your therapy should too.
Free 20-minute phone consult to see if this approach fits yours.