Neurodivergent Sex Therapy
The work isn't about fixing you.
It's about building a sex life that works with your nervous system.
If you're neurodivergent (ADHD, autistic, OCD, PTSD or otherwise), sex ed likely wasn't designed with your body in mind.
The cultural scripts about how long sex should last, who initiates, what "good sex" looks like, that it’s something you should want, whose pleasure gets centered, none of it accounts for sensory sensitiviti.es, executive function challenges, or the fact that your brain processes intimacy differently unless you’ve
You might be here because:
You know what you "should" want sexually, but your body isn't cooperating
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) gets in the way of intimacy
Sex feels performative rather than pleasurable
You’re often bored, understimulated, or sensorily overwhelmed during sex
You're navigating desire discrepancies in a mixed-neurotype relationship
You've masked for so long you've lost touch with what you actually want
You're dealing with sexual shame that's tangled up with neurodivergent shame
the approach
Identify what doesn’t feel good
Most people don’t know what they do like, so we start with what’s easy. We start by mapping your sensory experience, erotically and non-erotically. What textures make your skin crawl, What temperatures, sounds, and levels of stimulation feel under or overwhelming. We’ll name the systemic stuff (not yours to carry) to focus on what we can control. We're not pathologizing your sensory needs. We're using them as creative pathways to pleasure.
Focus on what does
My job is to support you in creating a context in which pleasure (aka feeling good in your body) is most accessible. That starts with intentionally set aside time for non-erotic pleasure, and using that to understand your overall relationship with it. Then we tend to it. This is where experiential and somatic work tends to happen.
Your sensory needs aren't just accommodations. They're part of how your body uniquely experiences pleasure. We'll work on creating conditions for sex that account for:
Structure AND spontaneity (because you might need both)
Novelty without overwhelm
Communication that doesn't rely on neurotypical social cues
Authentic desire versus performed enthusiasm
Create a pleasure-centered sex life
What to expect in sessions
You get to show up as yourself. Fidget, info-dump, avoid eye contact if that feels better, talk about your special interests, share in whatever way makes sense for your brain. Masking takes energy - energy you need for the actual therapy work.
Embodied Practices
build interoception to identify what you want vs. what you think you should want
Parts Work
notice what protective strategies are blocking access to desire and why
Sensory Mapping
identifying what feels bad/good inside and outside the bedroom
Nervous System Regulation
feel difference between uncomfortable & unsafe
Values Alignment
bridge the gap between your sexual values and your actions
Relationship Work
stay grounded within yourself and connected to each other