Sex & Relationship Therapy for
Sexual Trauma Recovery
You've survived enough.
It's time to feel alive.
Your body remembers what your mind has tried to forget.
And now that protective response, the one that helped you survive, is showing up everywhere you don't want it.
In your relationships. In your bedroom. In your ability to feel present in your own skin.
You've done the work. You've been to therapy. You can explain your patterns, name your triggers, trace them back to their origins.
So why does your nervous system still take over?
You can't think your way out of a body response.
I help sexual trauma survivors in Brooklyn and Portland reconnect with pleasure, safety, and desire through somatic sex therapy that works with your nervous system, not against it.
But it isn't broken. It's protecting you.
That freeze response, the disconnection, the way pleasure feels inaccessible, it makes sense. Most sexual trauma survivors learned that intimacy wasn't safe, and it's been working overtime to protect them ever since.
But what that helped you survive won’t help you feel alive again.
Most sexual trauma survivors I work with in Brooklyn and Portland have already done years of traditional therapy. They understand their history. They've processed the story.
But their bodies haven't caught up.
Talk therapy primarily engages the prefrontal cortex, the thinking brain. But trauma responses like freezing, dissociation, and hypervigilance originate in the brainstem and limbic system. These parts of your brain don't respond to logic or insight.
Working somatically means engaging your nervous system directly:
We track what's happening in your body in real-time, not just what you think about it
We notice when you start to leave (dissociate, numb, perform) and practice coming back
We build your capacity for sensation before we ever address sexual content
We create a map of your triggers that lives in your body, not just your mind
This isn't just talking about your experience. It's having a different one.
Somatic Sex Therapy for trauma is different
Who I Work With
I provide sexual trauma therapy for clients in Brooklyn, NY and Portland, OR via secure telehealth, with in-person sessions available as my practice expands.
If it happened at least six months ago and you and your partner experienced assault outside the relationship, I’d love to support you.
You or your partner may be
Survivors of sexual assault, abuse, or rape
Adults healing from childhood sexual abuse (CSA)
Experiencing sexual avoidance or shutdown after trauma
Struggling with dissociation during intimacy
Survivors with complex trauma (C-PTSD) affecting their sexuality
Neurodivergent individuals whose trauma intersects with sensory differences
Partners navigating intimacy after one or both have trauma from before the relationship
You don't need a formal PTSD diagnosis to benefit from this work. If past experiences are affecting your relationship with your body, sexuality, or intimacy, we can work together.
What Healing from Sexual Trauma Looks Like
I can't promise you a timeline. Healing isn't linear, and your nervous system moves at its own pace.
But I can tell you what becomes possible:
Your body starts to feel like yours again. Not something to manage or override. Home.
Nervous system regulation becomes accessible. You learn to notice when you're activated and how to return to your window of tolerance—so triggers stop running your life.
Pleasure comes back online. First in small, non-sexual ways. Then, at your pace, in your erotic life too.
You develop a sexual voice. Knowing what you want, communicating boundaries, feeling entitled to your own desire.
Intimacy stops feeling like something to get through. You learn to stay present with another person without your protective parts taking over.
You stop organizing your whole life around what happened to you. The trauma becomes part of your story, not the whole thing.
Frequently Asked Questions
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No. Trauma-informed sex therapy doesn't require detailed retelling of traumatic events. We can work with your body's responses without revisiting the narrative if that doesn't feel right for you. Some clients find sharing helpful; others don't. You decide.
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If past sexual experiences—whether you label them as assault, abuse, coercion, or something you can't name—are affecting how you relate to your body, pleasure, or intimacy now, that's enough. You don't need to justify or categorize your experiences to deserve support.
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There's no universal timeline. Some clients experience significant shifts in 3-6 months; others benefit from longer-term work, especially with complex trauma. We'll check in regularly about what's working and what you need.
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Yes. Many clients are partnered. We can work individually on your relationship with your own body and sexuality. I also offer couples sex therapy if you want to include your partner in rebuilding intimacy together.
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My rate is based on the average in that location. Click your city below or on the bottom of the page to learn more.
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Sessions are a mix of conversation and somatic awareness practices. We might talk about what's been coming up for you, then shift to noticing what's happening in your body as we explore a particular topic. There's no physical touch involved, this is about building your own relationship with your body.
Sexual trauma therapy in Brooklyn, NY
Whether you're in Park Slope, Williamsburg, DUMBO, or anywhere in the NYC area, I work with Brooklyn clients via secure telehealth. Many of my New York clients have done years of therapy and are looking for a body-based approach that finally addresses how trauma shows up in their sexuality, not just their thoughts. In person coming soon.
Sexual trauma therapy in Portland, OR
I'm licensed in Oregon and work with Portland-area clients ready for something different. If you've been searching for a trauma-informed sex therapist in Portland who integrates somatic work with clinical expertise, I'd love to connect.
Ready to start?
A consultation is free, with no pressure. We'll talk about what's bringing you in and whether this approach feels right for you.
You might also be navigating
Sexual Anxiety — When fear has taken over the bedroom
Low Desire — When your body has gone quiet
Painful Sex— When intimacy hurts and doctors can't explain why
Mismatched Desire — Rebuilding intimacy together after trauma