you want relationships that feel authentic and alive,

not just functional.

SEX & RELATIONSHIP

THERAPY

in Brooklyn, NY
& Portland, OR

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You’re probably here because…

  • You get why you shut down during sex, but your body still does it anyway

  • Communicating what you want feels selfish if it might impact your partner

  • Your sex life doesn't reflect who you are

  • You want deeper intimacy but something in you pulls back the moment you're really seen

  • You're rebuilding trust after a betrayal and need more than "just communicate better"

  • Sex is uncomfortable and you want more access to pleasure

  • You want a therapist who is anti-racist, non-pathologizing, actively engaged and won’t judge you for your choices

  • You've done therapy before. You're ready for something different.

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Hi, I’m Sarah.

You've done the work. You can name the pattern, explain where it comes from. And your body still does the thing. I help people move past knowing into feeling—the kind of change your nervous system can use, not just your brain.

I'll notice when you start tracking your partner's reaction instead of staying connected to your own experience, and we'll slow it down. I'll ask what's happening in your body when you say "I'm fine." I'm direct, I'm playful, and I'll hold you accountable to your values even when it's annoying.

Trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS Level 2), sex therapy, somatic and nervous system-based approaches, and differentiation-based couples therapy.

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THE DIFFERENCE

  • 01 / EXPERIENTIAL

    A typical session won’t only involve talking, but creating a somatic map of what we’re working on. That means we will be feeling, sensing, and noticing how those themes show up for you, so you can identify it throughout the week.

  • 02/ MULTICULTURAL

    Growing up outside American hyper-individualistic culture gives me a keen eye in noticing social scripts. I’ll help you make conscious choices based on the cultures you’re a part of and the ones you hope to create in your relationships.

  • 03/ PRACTICAL

    No worksheets or busy-work, but personalized practices that will help you actualize the changes you want to make. We’ll work together to make it as fun and applicable as possible.

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FAQs

  • Sex therapy is therapy that specifically addresses sexual concerns—desire, arousal, pain, shame. I'm trained in somatic and nervous system-based approaches, which means we pay attention to what's happening in your body, but everything stays within the bounds of a normal therapy session. Think of it as therapy that doesn't skip over the sexual stuff.

  • Both. Some people come in on their own to work on their relationship to their body, desire, or sexuality. Some come as a couple. It depends on what makes sense for where you are.

  • Most of my clients have already done therapy. They can name their patterns, explain where they come from. What hasn't shifted is the body-level stuff—the freeze, the shutdown, the performance mode that kicks in during intimacy. I work with your nervous system and protective parts in real time, not just the story about them. If you've been stuck in insight without change, that's what I'm here for.

  • I'm private pay. I don't accept insurance because insurance companies get to define what counts as a diagnosable sexual concern, and I disagree with most of their definitions. I can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement—many clients get a portion back.

  • That's what the consult is for. Book a free 20-minute call and we'll figure out together whether individual, couples, or sex therapy (or some combination) makes sense for what you're dealing with.

Are you ready to grow?

Free 20-minute consult. Let’s see if it’s a fit.

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